Yuhchyau Chen / Chen Yuhchyau Roloff / Gary Gene Roloff

Outline of topics:

  • Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff refused my (Gene Roloff) request to move to Boston, Massachusetts to live with her and my son, Gary. The time period was when I was living alone in the house in Lake Forest Park, Washington (North Seattle).
  • In case of her death Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff  wanted her sister (Yeemay Griffin) and her husband (Thomas [Grif] Griffin III) to adopt and raise Gary as their son. She requested that I sign a legal document to be included in her Will proving my agreement to this. I  refused! She stated that her sister and brother-in-law would do a better job raising Gary in the “Chinese Way”, implying that my disagreement with the “Chinese Way” of raising children was not necessarily the best way. (In short, the “Chinese Way” consisted of emotionally and psychologically humiliating and punishing the child if he does not get perfect grades and reports from his school teachers. After I refused to do this for one less-than-perfect grade in one of his classes, she stopped the school from sending his reports to me.) The time period was when I was living in Texas.
  • Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff greatly limited my son’s visits with me and some years did not allow him to visit me at all. This was technically a violation of my visitation rights, and significantly increased the emotional and psychological distance between me and my son Gary Gene Roloff.
  • Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff was ashamed that her husband (Gene Roloff) was divorced and had children. She insisted that I do not tell any people where she worked or went to school in Seattle. One evening at a party at her boss’s home, I accidentally mentioned to her boss that I have a son. In the car on the way home she flew into a rage of criticism. That was the last gathering that I was invited to.
  • Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff had Gary circumcised covertly, against my (Gene Roloff) clear refusal to grant my permission.  This behavior showed her dishonestly and disrespect for my wishes.
  • Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff made her decision about where to do her medical residency without telling me (Gene Roloff) anything about it until she had accepted a position in Boston, Massachusetts. She also had an offer to do her residency in Seattle, Washington. I requested that she do it in Seattle. She declined my input without any discussion. She just made airplane reservations for herself, Gary and his nanny and left me alone in Seattle. Bye, Bye. Gary was about two years old. This behavior showed her disregard for my wishes and disregard for keeping a father for Gary. Without even a discussion she expected me to leave my children, grandchildren, mother, friends, work place and the best place to live in the USA.
  • Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff chose to not return to the Seattle area after she finished her residency. She chose a job in Rochester, New York. There were jobs available in the Seattle area. This behavior showed her disregard for Gary having a father available on a regular and consistent basis. Normally the divorce court will require that the father grant permission before the mother moves out of the state where the father resides because it will make it difficult for the father to maintain regular visitation contact with the child. This did not seem to concern the mother of my son.
  • Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff chose not to provide an alternate father-figure influence for Gary for the more than 20 years after she took him away from me. She remained the sole source of his emotional, psychological and physical needs with no balancing influence from anyone.
  • While I was living in Texas I requested Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff to let Gary spend the summer with me. She refused, and instead she sent him to spend time with her sister (Yeemay Griffin) and brother-in-law (Thomas [Grif] Griffin III) in Austin, Texas. I suggest that this was to prepare for her request that her sister and brother-in-law agree to adopt Gary in the case of her death.
  • Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff was ashamed that her husband (Gene Roloff) was only a computer programmer/systems analyst, while she was working towards becoming one of the gods of the medical world.
  • Her objective was to become a Medical Doctor.
  • Her sister (Yeemay Griffin) told me personally that Yuhchyau Chen did not love me before we got married, but I didn’t believe it or believed that later she would love me after she knows me better.  Later analysis by a psychologist indicated that she could not make an emotional connection with anyone, and that is why I always felt alone even in the same room with her. He said that she interacts with people as if there is a plexiglass shield around her insulating her from all emotion.
  • This plexiglass shield around her insulating her from all emotion very likely allowed her to be unaffected by the many ill and dying people around her and her more emotional colleagues, but she made a small hole in her shield so that she could made a connection with her son, Gary Gene Roloff. Only he can have an emotional effect on her.
  • 2002 June-July Yuhchyau Chen allowed Gary to visit his father in Dallas, TX for 9 days, and his aunt in Austin, TX 28 days.
  • Yuhchyau Chen/Chen Yuhchyau Roloff signed a document saying that if she left me that she would leave our child with me. She failed to do that after she left. I had a strong suspicion that she would leave after she had my child and graduated from medical school. Therefore, I requested that she sign this document before she got pregnant.
  • The Chinese have a tradition of demanding the oldest son to take care of them when they become old and retire. Therefore, it is the self-interest of the parent(s) to push the child to get a high-paying, stable job in order to best take care of them. They use emotional blackmail such as “I paid so much for your education that you owe it to me to take care of me later”. This is plain premeditated, self-interested coercion on the child to do what the parents’ want — not allowing the child to pursue what interests him.
  • She refused to give me his phone number when I asked in June 2012.
  • I feel very sad about the psychological, emotional and physical damage that has happened to Gary because there was no one there to protect  and help him.
  • The mother has a powerful influence over the child, especially when the father is not there. This created a survival-personality and the profound sense of being alone and helpless.

Overview of the effects on Gary and his reactions:

Overview of Yuhchyau Chen’s goals and effects on Gary:

 

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